Few days ago..no..a week ago or so, our housekeeper said something really heart warming:
"I've been married for 42 years and it's been like two life sentences"
Does it really have to be like this? Is it really like this? I mean yeah, yeah it was funny and all ..but still ..if you start to think about it - how many married couples do you know who truly enjoy each others company, even after 42 odd years..I don't want to be like this! Maybe she said the same thing when she got married..maybe they've all said the same thing..like a chicken choir! why does it have to be something monstrous? And what's the meaning of all this anyway? Or are they just saying those things because after all these years they just haven't got anything else to say anymore..How many occasions I've been sitting up in the kitchen 2 am and listening to a friend "moaning" about his or hers partners faults and all the things they do and are wrong and how they do not seem to reach or understand each other.blabla bla..how many times I've been thinking that maybe it's not me you should say all these things..why can't you talk to the right person..talk to the one that needs to hear these things..and anyway - why is it so easy to talk to someone who's not involved? I mean -I don't mind listening (hey - that's what friends are for!) but will it help, will it do any good?
According to Douglas Coupland " Hey Nostradamus!" humanity alone has the capacity at any given moment to commit all possible sins..then , please, do explain me - why would we want to throw ourselves into something we would start to see as a "life sentence" and only because we think that all the pleasures we had before are now transformed into (somehow) things you do not do anymore..sins! And why are sins sins? Why is it a sin to love two or three people at the same time? Why is it a sin to seek fulfillment from different people, different situations? Haven't we made it all up, why did we ( and who did, who was the bastard?) categorise some things (usually the good ones..the gooooood things..) as sins..as something You do not do..because..because why?
And what about all the stuff about soul mates and perfect match and meeting someone who's just like you and the thing about not needing any words to understand each other, not to mention the content feeling while sharing the silence..having all these things - will it still feel like two life sentences..
Or is it just a matter of a fortunate or an unfortunate choice?
What is it?!!
Where's the stupid book that has all the answers??!!!!! I'm sure as hell that there's a manual somewhere out there..I want one..or do I?
Well..I was just thinking here..out loud or rather "down written"..
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